Has anyone else noticed the increasing trend of disappearing comments that disagree with posts on GM sites lately?

Well, here is my story:

I was reading the Amanda Bynes story currently posted on Jezebel, and got a little fed up with the constant body snarking and nasty coverage that she has gotten recently on Jez. Look, I understand that the main thing with Gawker Media is that it is a snarky place where people come to laugh at news stories and let off steam about current events. However, Jezebel identifies itself as a feminist blog, a place where women and like-minded individuals can come, support one another and talk about prevailing patriarchal viewpoints in society. I don't think they have been doing such a good of that job recently, especially with their Amanda Bynes coverage (Don't get me wrong, I there have been other glaring issues to me too, but that's for another post).

Listen, I love Jezebel. It is a great community full of wonderful supportive women and men who think like I do on a variety of issues and want to make the world a better place for everyone. HOWEVER, when I see something that I think is just wrong (especially for a place that is supposed to be uplifting to women) I feel like I need to say something.

So I posted:

I am sorry y'all, but I am so tired of the stories ragging on Amanda Bynes. The girl obviously has some serious shit going on. I don't think all her bizarre behavior is an act. This is feminist blog, where we are supposed to to be able to come and support one another. Lately though, these Amanda Bynes stories have come way too close to completely snarking at and making fun of someone who clearly is in a tailspin.

The girl needs help. Not to be ragged on by us (of all people!).

Almost immediately, it was dismissed. I know it was dismissed, because it still appears in its full glory on my own personal blog. I reloaded a few times, and just as I was about to write another response noting that I saw I was dismissed, I saw this:

BKBXDC:

A funny (and not ha-ha) thing just happened. I was in the process of responding to a previous comment, which I have included below, when I saw that it had disappeared. The comment, while critical of this post, and indeed of other similar posts, made what I believe to be a valid point. I was in the process of saying as much when the post disappeared. It's possible that the person who posted it took it down herself (I'm assuming it's a her from the username - sorry if that's gender normative!) but I doubt that.

It seems to me that this is starting to be a little bit of trend on Jez. I love this site and have been an avid reader for years. When I was in college the old groupthink helped me through a lot shit. But recently I've noticed that the tone of the site has gotten a lot more snarky. The previous poster had made a comment about how she felt that the tone of the Amanda Bynes coverage on here has gotten to be a bit mean, and not at helpful. I was trying to agree. She seems like a woman with serious problems and Jezebel is supposed to a community that supports people (unless they are super crazy anti-feminist jerks). Amanda Bynes, like Lindsay Lohan before her, needs help. By continuing to give her attention, and in such an unhelpful, body-snarking, and nasty way, we are contributing to the problem societally as well as specifically in her case. Isn't that the antithisis of the Jezebel community's mission?

Sorry about the rant, and I fully expect this to be taken down like the previous post, but I feel like I had to say something (or a lot of things).

For reference SouthernHelle wrote:

I am sorry y'all, but I am so tired of the stories ragging on Amanda Bynes. The girl obviously has some serious shit going on. I don't think all her bizarre behavior is an act. This is feminist blog, where we are supposed to to be able to come and support one another. Lately though, these Amanda Bynes stories have come way too close to completely snarking at and making fun of someone who clearly is in a tailspin.

The girl needs help. Not to be ragged on by us (of all people!) 22 minutes ago

Other people have now chimed in about it, which you can read in full here.

Listen, I am all for dismissing trolls, but what was wrong with my comment? I was just trying to put forth a respectful, dissenting viewpoint. I have noticed an increasing culture of this lately on many of Gawker's sites, and it's something that has got to stop. If we can't disagree, we can't have thoughtful conversations.

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This might be a post better suited for Groupthink, but since I do not have posting privileges there, I decided to share with you good people. Thanks for letting me rant.

And a big thank you to BKBXDC.

Also apologize for any typos/grammatical errors. Wrote this in a tizzy.

Fin.