You know, I was reading Hamilton Nolan's recap of a Jen Caron's existential crisis about having a Black woman in her yoga class, which is awesome (Nolan's recap—not Caron's piece) and noticed in the comments, this tension between those who thought that her discussion "opened up a dialogue" and those who wanted to critique her.
Badger doesn't need to talk about Jen Caron but what badger wonders is: Is telling someone that their point of view is clueless/offensive/ ridiculous part of having a dialogue or is it inherently shutting down a conversation?
I'd say that in my opinion that yes, telling someone their point is ridiculous is a legitimate reaction and is not mutually exclusive from having a dialogue. She wants to talk about her experience about race and my answer is that your essay is a loose amalgamation of projections on some lady who just wanted to take a yoga class. That's a real response.
But not everyone agrees— people talk a lot about "silencing" and while it is useful to talk about silencing at times, especially when attending to power dynamics,I think it's often overused. Sometimes someone else just thinks your response or your thoughts suck and are expressing their feelings.
So what say you? Thoughtful badger ponders.