While reading the article about Jessica Coen, I happened on this piece of wonderfulness. I think this judge's attitude is admirable. From now on, rather than sentencing anyone to jail for their crimes, the onus should be on whoever they victimized to forgive them. Of course, this will be tricky for murder victims, but I guess their obligation to forgive their murderers will be inherited by their families. The important thing to recognize is that the commission of a crime, in this jurist's eminently reasonable view, occasions an obligation on the part of the victim of the crime to forgive their victimizer, rather than an obligation on his part to sentence whoever victimized them appropriately.
And remember, there's no such thing as rape culture! There's just a lot of unforgiving women.